2011 Musjid-ut-Taqwa, Pietermaritzburg, KZN, South Africa .
Hazrat Moulana Dawood Seedat Saheb (DB)
Above transcript extracted from Haz. Mol. Dawood Seedat Saheb's Majaalis dated 15 Dec 2014. Should you wish to listen to the full programme, download the MP3 audio file from HERE
On the occassion of nikah there are two prevailing emotions for parents, happiness and sadness. A parent will be happy for the child on the child’s big day and sad due to the child now having to leave the parental home. There is a deeper reality to this occasion.
The child that is given to us by Allah Taala is a responsibility. In the instance of a daughter being married and now leaving the fathers home, there is definitely sadness and due concern for the future well being of the child, but it is in reality the occasion of the passing of a responsibility. The responsibility of assuring that this person remains on siraat-e-mustaqim has now been reassigned to someone else.
Consequently when a young man takes the decision to get married, he should realise that it is not all fun and games. The reality is that he is being “employed” by Allah Taala to assume this new responsibility. There should never be any worry or concern regarding the terms of employment. This contract is with Allah Taala, and Allah Taala has undertaken to take care of our needs.
A Muslim should never become blinded by the kufaar concepts and dialogue on family planning.Allah Taala is the greatest planner. Through the different stages of our existence Allah Taala has done what is best for us therefore it is inconceivable to think that at this juncture we know better. Allah Taala put life into us in the womb of our mothers and it is the same Allah Taala that has seen us to this stage of life, so why are we now so afraid that our Allah Taala who gives life will now abandon that newborn child by not providing for it?
The business end of the contract of marriage is a very lucrative one that is dependent on the level of taqwa of the contracting parties (husband and wife). When they were in their parents home, they had only the parents to please and the reward would be jannat. After nikah, they now have a double opportunity to earn jannat, by pleasing a second set of parents, and in the case of the bride a third opportunity by pleasing her husband as well. The main ingredient though is that everything must be done within the bounds of shariat and for the pleasure of Allah Taala.
WE HAVE BEEN INSTRUCTED, THROUGH VARIOUS MEDIANS, TO TAKE LESSONS FROM THE VARIOUS CONDITIONS AND OCCASSIONS THAT ARE PRESENTED BEFORE US.